I Heart Stella.


it’s true, what they say.

things can’t always work out.

relationships, exams, friendships, the weather. nothing will ever be exactly what we want from it.

but we wouldn’t think to control the weather. that’s preposterous. sometimes it’s sunny, sometimes it rains.

yet we pour our all into something we feel like we can control. a relationship that doesn’t work out. a final we aren’t as prepared for as we thought. or hoped. or wanted to be.

i don’t think that’s failure. sure, we could have done more. but we didn’t.

sure, on a different day, in a different life, sometime, somewhere, it might have been exactly the way we envisioned. but it wasn’t.

"Nobody has things just as he would like them. The thing to do is to make a success with what material I have. It is a sheer waste of time and soul-power to imagine what I would do if things were different. They are not different."

Dr. Frank Crane.

know what the beauty of it is? they don’t need to be different. i’ll take them exactly as they are.

i used to be thankful for the rain. it reminded me how great sunny days can be. i thought i was enlightened. a sort of “see the good in the bad things you have to deal with” attitude.

but why settle for that? isn’t it better to be happy for the rain? isn’t it better to appreciate the light sting of raindrops on your face at 60 mph? isn’t it better to wade through knee-deep puddles because you want to?

why make your happiness contingent upon something outside of your control?

if you learn to love the rain, you can be happy all of the time.

This article was posted by Justin Hileman on 10 June 2006, and is filed under failure, musing and rain. If you have any comments, please contact me or leave a comment on this article.